Strategies for Waiting With Kids
September 20, 2012 in Education
We spend a lot of time waiting on things:
Planes, trains, buses and more. We’ve gotten good at waiting over the years. Our secret weapon? Games. We play games while we wait. We always have.
When the kids were little we played “I spy” and sang nursery rhymes and told jokes while we waited. We counted things and looked for patterns and we read stories and made shadows with our fingers.
When they got a little older we went nowhere without our chapter book. We plowed through Ben Hur and Watership Down, the Narnia series and the Jungle Books while we rode in the car and waited at doctor’s offices.
Since we’ve been traveling full time we’ve elevated waiting to an art form. If you’re looking for a few activities to fill the long minutes that stretch into hours with kids as you wait, we have a few suggestions:
Play Cards
We play a lot of cards in our family and we have for generations. I remember learning the fine art of bluffing over the euchre table from my grandfather and uncles as a small child. We play Five Crowns, War and even travel with a little fold up cribbage board. The kids learned a little Poker from their cousins last time we were in Indiana. I’ve never mastered the game and got tired of being teased about playing poker like a girl when I was a teenager. I much prefer euchre. Last month we spent a few minutes between pick-up truck rides explaining the finer points of the game on a dirt floor patio on the banks of the Mekong in Laos.
Reading
If you’ve been paying any attention at all, you know that our family reads aloud a lot. Since the kids were little we’ve read aloud over meals, sneaking in much of their history and literature study while they chewed. Tony always has a “fun” book going, and he’s the kids’ favourite reader, because he does voices. We’ve had whole train cars full of enthralled listeners as Daddy plows through the next chapter of The Princess Bride on a train in the Czech. Carrying books and reading individually can be a great way to pass the time, but reading aloud to, and with, your kids is a great way to bond as a family and to pass on a rich culture of literacy from generation to generation.
Nature Drawing
Charlotte Mason introduced me to the concept of Nature Notebooking when my kids were small. I loved the idea of studying science in the early years by drawing things from the natural world that interested each of us individually. We’ve long made a practice of finding something small to draw: an acorn, a slug, paying particular attention to it’s breathing pore, a squirrel. It doesn’t really matter. I carry a pad of tiny blank papers, 3.5 X 5 inches, and water colour pencil crayons at all times. The best nature drawing we’ve done recently: painting the sunrise over the main temple complex at Angkor Wat last month. Stunning.
Something To Share
My kids are big now. A 14 hour bus ride doesn’t phase them. No one asks when the bus is coming or if we’re there yet. They just ride and find ways to pass the time. But they were little once, and they remember what it’s like to feel tired and bored to tears. Time always passes more quickly with friends and we learned early to pack a few things with “share potential” in our bags: marbles, cars, an inflatable ball, balloons, and plastic animal toys are all examples. Our kids still do this. Then, they look for little children who are struggling with the wait and they offer to play and share with them. Everybody wins! Elisha is the best at this, he is never without a pocketful of treasures for newfound friends!
Do you have strategies for passing the time? What do you do while you wait?
Those are excellent strategies Jenn.
I’d add to the last strategy. Looking for someone who is struggling and helping them. Old ladies, mothers with grumpy children. They provide entertainment for your own kids and of course solve problems for others. My daughter is a motherly sort and loves to be the grown up one who can calm a toddler or baby that is losing patience or hungry or whatever.
You know what they say about idle hands and devils…lol.
Kids don’t need to be bored. All it takes is creativity and that is what is sadly lacking in many kids these days. An ipad is generally shoved in front of a child to distract. Why would you want to be distracted from all the wonderful things that are taking place right in front of you?
Oh another one is a game we play. Sort of like Chinese whispers. Mum or Dad will begin a story…Once upon a time there was a hairy goat. Then we go around the family with each adding their own spice. As you can imagine with kids imaginations the stories are UNREAL!!
Chris… absolutely! GREAT strategy and one we employ, I don’t know why I forgot to tuck it in there but I’m so glad that you did it for me! Raising kids to see the needs around them and serve is so key to producing useful humans and world citizens. I do hope our paths cross in real life one day, perhaps at a bus stop? 😉
Oh, I am with you about boys and the stuff in their pockets. Mine have so much stuff, they can always make up a dozen games, build a little car, create a character, fix a shoe….
The times I find difficult are when mom and dad need to be doing something and the children need to sit quietly and wait. For example we were at a clothing store and we needed to purchase warm clothing for ourselves and a few of our kids. We asked the kids to pack a backpack full of things because they were going to have to wait while we shopped. Although it worked fairly well, it could have gone better. I would love tips for that.
Sounds like you are on the right track… a lot of patience and perseverance. It takes kids a long time to learn the fine art of waiting. The more “opportunities” they have to practice, the better. We also had some structured in waiting “practice” at home in the form of book time, or quietly sitting with a toy of their choosing at the table for a period of time each day until they were really good at just chilling for half an hour or so!